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He must be at least 36, since he has a 16-year-old daughter. He is eleven or more years older than you. You are 25, only nine years older than she.
Yikes! You and the daughter might combine your Barbies, and play pretty well together.
Do you imagine he will be a better dad to your future daughter, than he was to his daughter with his first wife, starting sixteen years ago? Hah! Why do you believe his first wife went cuckoo? He and his daughter drove her nuts.
Is that what you want for your own self?
The daughter comes with the boyfriend. Take care of her if you really like him. Maybe, even take care of her if you decide to leave her dad. You have made a connection with somebody who really needs help. Help. To hell with her dad.