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• Tuesday, January 13, 2009 12:32 PM

  I really hope this letter is a fake

  But if not, there is nothing sexist about castigating the LW. She shows no compassion for “Anna” aside from how it will affect her perfect life with the fiancé. No, she doesn’t need to go full onslaught maternal on the girl, but by inferring the girl is a complete freak and will be a burden forever, she comes across as callous and uncaring. She could have simply written the daughter is immature and lacks some social awareness, but she has to put her down like a mean girl middle-schooler. She’s unattractive! No one will marry her! She’s clumsy! Menstrual blood! She’s stupid!....ad nauseam. The LW doesn’t appear to want to have anything to do with her and seems to want some sort of validation that is OK to marry the dad, but have nothing to do with the daughter.

  The father strikes me as a complete tool and is probably using the LW as a means of no longer having to pay anyone to deal with his daughter. However, the fact that she saw nothing wrong with the girl’s father previously only seeing the daughter “once a week for a nice dinner” after suffering the trauma of her mother’s abandonment doesn’t make me feel any sympathy for her at all. I get the impression that if the status quo with Anna living apart from the father with the nanny was continuing, there would be no hesitation to walk down the aisle. I feel for the teenager, what a shitty hand in life she was dealt.

  —ck0921 Read ck0921's other letters
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