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And tying yourself to a person you don't like or have any interest in understanding would make you old before your time, guarantee you years of self loathing and possibly finish off the destruction of this child who has already been severely handicapped by neglect.
I suggest the father admit that he's clueless and unwilling to learn and give the nanny a yearly sum to bring her up.At least she cares for her.He can see his child a few times a year to maintain some semblance of famly ties.
She sounds like a child that has been raised by wolves. No wonder she escapes to fantasy novels.
Please be advised this man is incapable of truly knowing how to care for someone.
Get away or you will end up reading a fantasy novel a day to survive emotionally.