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The LW didn't create this situation; it sounds as if she were still fetal tissue when she became involved with the father and probably had no idea what she was getting into. And don't blame the mother - she's seriously mentally ill. Hardly good mother material.
It sounds as if the girl has Asperger's syndrome; she certainly has some questionable genetic markers. It would be nice if the LW hung out a bit and took the girl for a work up.