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What is it you love about this man? Seriously, I would have major, major reservations about marrying someone this clueless-to-out-and-out-indifferent about his obviously-needs-help daughter. Suppose you get hitched, but later become ill or need help at some point--will he farm _you_ out to nurses and a separate apartment or something? At best, he sounds like a big, irresponsible kid; at worst, a neglectful, dangerously-oblivious person. If he can't care for his daughter the way he should, how do you know he will care for you when things aren't always romantic and peachy?