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Monday, January 12, 2009 12:00 AM

The two-boyfriend problem

I miss the one I left, but I don't want the one I left him for!

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  • Monday, January 12, 2009 04:29 PM

    It's not even the hippy dippy arty farty festival...it's his reaction to it

    To wit:

    "However, after a trip to Burning Man, he rejected his previous goals as meaningless and bourgeois, and instead decided that a nomadic life of teaching English in the Chinese countryside was truly what he wanted to do. After several months of his becoming less interested in normal everyday life in favor of the novel, exotic zaniness of the Burning Man lifestyle, and by extension less interested in normal, everyday me, I could tolerate no more of his neglect, veiled put-downs and so on and broke things off with him."

    It's not going off to China. It's not going off to China because his eyes were opened at Burning Man.

    It's that he was a SMUG ASSHOLE about his "awakening." It wasn't just that he regarded his own goals as "meaningless and bourgeois," he thought that everyone else's were, too--and didn't exactly keep those thoughts to himself.

    There are people who go to Burning Man because they like to see big, cool pieces of art that you won't see anywhere else. They come back and have great photos and interesting stories, but don't tell all their friends that they are "part of the problem because they're not part of the solution."

    This guy isn't one of them.

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