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I just cant get past how often the LW mentioned how brilliant she and the men are. What a burden to be so clever in a world of dolts.
Ya know, if you think you are 'really smart' you start to presume that whatever you want to do is 'right' because you are so 'smart'. You don't question your own decisions because you're too smart to let emotion cloud your smartiness. "Good people" do this all the time - they do wrong or stupid things, knowing that they are 'right' because, after all, they are good people.
Probably none of the three has missed out on the love of their life. None of them seems to be anywhere near the point of settling down, as all are finding themselves. It's a non-problem, IMO. Just don't make a fetish out of dreaming of what might-have-been. The LW wasn't happy before, she isn't happy now, but at least she's free (which is good - she's leaving country, no?)
I hope I can be well off enough someday so my kids have the luxory of finding themselves.