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I do kind of agree with some posters who mention the cultural differences between the graduate school/trust fund set and those who live in flyover America or small towns.
Most people, just as human beings have done for tens of thousands of years, find someone who lives close by to whom they are sexually attracted and who is available. Nature takes its course and they make the best of it, or possibly the worst of it.
The vast majority of problems in relationships are caused by alcohol and drugs, or just by immaturity and lack of commitment to making the relationship work. Children may act as a form of cement, or in weaker relationships as an additional stressor.
Not long ago a woman I supervise at work was clearly in an emotional state and had a facial bruise that was supposedly the result of slipping on a staircase. She asked me if her husband (also an employee) was working today, so clearly unaware of this whereabouts. She and he share 5 children, so one would think she would need his help domestically.
During the course of our conversation she said to me: You know, having F. at home is just like raising an extra child.
What does this have to do with the LW's dilemma, then? Not much, except to point out that all her troubles are little ones and that these boyfriends are just playthings.
There are millions of men out there. Millions. In fact there are nearly as many men as women, and as a woman of 25, she can date men of just about any age from 20 to 40, which gives her a huge range. Why choose one failed boyfriend over another? Why not look out for someone new?
