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LW,
Whether you meant to or not, you spelled out very clearly that you were not happy where you were, nor did the relationship have any potential. Change is really hard for all of us, but you can't look back in relationships. You must accept the reality of them and move forward. Trust in yourself that when you were unhappy, you really were unhappy. It was time for that to end.
As for your other love interest, it may or may not work out. It's unfortunate that it takes so long to come to the ultimate conclusion about a relationship, but the fact is that it takes time to face what are ultimately facts about another person or to realize that some behaviors are patterns that we are incompatible with.
So as agonizing as the whole process can be, there is no way around it. The pain is the reason we cling to each other as humans, the reason the music industry is so vital.
It's a cliche, but try to always be true to yourself and not stay where you are constantly fighting an undercurrent of some sort, and hopefully you will arrive at a good place or at least in the process learn the truths about love and about yourself that we are all really seeking through others.
I give you this advice as I give it to myself, too.
