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Mr. Philosophy is out because you are 25 and didn't wanna do it with him. If it isn't there at 25, forget about it after a couple of kids, etc.
Can't work up any passion about Mr X? Had an emotional affair and was happy to leave it at that? Forget about him also.
Unless you can find some guy that brings out your animal spirits, just focus on your career. There's too much drama and not enough lust in this adventure.