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Monday, January 12, 2009 12:00 AM

The two-boyfriend problem

I miss the one I left, but I don't want the one I left him for!

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  • Monday, January 12, 2009 01:46 PM

    @metadet

    Dear metadet,

    Fuck you.

    Imagine for a minute that someone wrote in, "Dear American guy, don't even think you have a chance in dating, because there is a whole continent of better-looking/richer/taller/stronger/cooler/more-successful guys out there than you, and once a women has experienced that, she will never go back to the emprisoning wasteland that is 'you' or your kind."

    That is literally what you just wrote.

    Or how about, "Dear black guy, don't even think you have a chance in dating, because once that woman has experienced dating a white man she wouldn't want to be with a black man again. Maybe she will come to your city and date a white guy, or if you are white maybe you have a chance, but otherwise no."

    What is wrong with you? Why on Earth would you write something like that in a public forum?

    American women are *human beings.* Worth no more or less, as a whole, than Asian women, as a whole. Fortunately there are a lot of people out there who can see that. And there are many American men who can and do marry American women (or French women, or African women, or other non-Asian women) who aren't worse off for it.

    -V

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