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• Monday, January 12, 2009 09:12 AM

  Two's a crowd...

  In a mind so obviously full of self. But that's not why I'm writing. I'm writing because I am continually stunned by the patience and compassion Cary shows his LW's, no matter how self-absorbed, twenty-something they may be. Cary, you are so damned kind. I guess that's why you are writing this column, and not all of us would be flame throwers out in the great readership.

  My advice to our stunningly intelligent, gifted, would be saver of humanity is just this -- feel it all. You can't think your way out of emotional traps, you can only feel it and let time do it's wondrous magic. If you really intend to work with the disenfranchised diaspora of the planet, getting through heartbreak will be a useful skill.

  My hunch is that you aren't meant to be with either of these boys. More likely you will continue your work toward your goals... and while in the midst of some overseas service job you might just find yourself side by side with a grown up man who shares your goals and dreams. You will never know until you are well on your own way.

  My remaining advice is to let yourself be single for awhile, while you pursue your own future and find, in the process, who you are. You might be lonely, but loneliness is another side effect of roaming the planet that you would do well to manage.

  Lastly, Burning Man is wonderful! Can't wait til September. See you there, Cary?

  —Dogtownsweetheart Read Dogtownsweetheart's other letters
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