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What I have learned over time is that we can form strong emotional attachments to just about anyone we share time and space with, especially if there is an element of physical attraction thrown in there. Does that mean we can sustain nurturing long-term emotional links with everyone with whom we form a bond? Hell no. Usually the first year of relationships is all about finding out—is this a flash in the pan? Or is this link harmonized enough to go the distance? Deep rooted conflicts between two people who like each other do not usually become apparent immediately. Only over time, once many sacrifices and compromises have been made are we able to ascertain the answer to the question—am I able and gladly willing to comprise on some of my hopes desires dreams for the sake of “us?” It is a tough thing to align your fate with someone else; and to accept that you are playing such an integral role in the way destiny plays out in someone else’s life.
If an emotional bond was formed, the pain of separation is a given. Whether the ensuing pain from a separation has its origins in an injured ego, hurt pride, comfortable habits obliterated, or truly is matter of the heart, or perhaps a mixture of all of that it does not matter-- either way, pain is a given. But is the pain of separation an indication that two people were right for each other after all? Are you kidding? What is an indicator of whether two people were right for each other is how they interacted when they were together, not how much pain they feel when they are apart.
