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Monday, January 12, 2009 12:00 AM

The two-boyfriend problem

I miss the one I left, but I don't want the one I left him for!

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  • Monday, January 12, 2009 01:50 PM

    What arrogant pretension

    I can boil this down pretty fast:

    "Dear Cary, I am one of the most remarkably gifted geniuses that the world has ever had the grace to know. My ex boyfriend? He too is one of the most remarkably gifted geniuses the world has ever known. My current boyfriend? He is a lazy slob because he won't finish a thesis in Philosophy.

    To again prove to you (and everyone reading this) how remarkable I am, I will pepper my own thesis-length letter with dazzling anecdotes about world travel, lofty goals and Henrik Ibsen. See how smart I am? I'm awesome. The boyfriend thing, secondary.

    Love, LW"

    If the LW is this excessively critical and self aggrandizing at the age of 25, I fear for how shrill she may become in the future.

    The best practitioners I have met - in any field- are the ones who quietly and diligently go about their work. Not the ones who stand on the table shouting their self perceived genius.

    Or as Henry Ford once said, "You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do."

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