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My husband has the full time job and 401K plan plus other investments. I am freelance and too tightfisted with money to gamble on stocks. We take risks in different ways -- and are averse to risks in different ways. At one point he asked if the money that I had just sitting around could be invested in stocks -- he was up, and proud of it. I said, howzabout you invest what you can save, and I just plain old save what I can save, and that way we won't put all our eggs in one basket. Of course, like everyone else, his investments are down for now. I don't want to know exactly how bad it is. And likely it will change over the next 30 years.
But, even as money seems to rear up like an ugly monster with all of its own power, it's not really more than a metaphor for relationship issues like control. I think it's unrealistic to think that two people in a relationship just agree on everything and march forth through time. We achieve fleeting balances, and rebalance constantly. We are appreciably different in every possible way you could compare ... and that fact keeps us committed to, rather than afraid of the process of having to find balance.
