How is this a problem not easily solved with a blowjob?

by refilling his pot-bowl or whatever

Thread over, everyone can go home.

Tell him you gave in to temptation and ask if you can share it with him next time. If both of you are chipping in, I don't see why he would refuse.

but I couldn't get through his answer to find out. Yes, you have to tell him, but super casual, like you've done nothing wrong. Text him and say "hey, i took some of your pot, hope you don't mind, will pay you back next week [with a blow job]. xo"

...thank you.

But as usual, hidden in way too much talking.

Boiled down: figure out why you can't ask for what you need, and work on it.

The rest is just newage sewage.

At the halfway mark, I realized that Cary was, um, really stoned, drunk or reliving an emotional adolescence - or maybe all three.

Go to a yard sale. Steal caste iron pot and toaster.

Smack pot robbers. Put one eggs, cheddar cheese,

butter, pickle, and pepper into the pilfered toaster.

That will dissipate moral guilt and rid you of hunger.

Put spinach grub in a toaster. Serve a brunch omelet.

If one day, you need a pot and toaster, rob again, Pot!

Smoke pots? Next, schizophrenic refrigerator thuggery?

Ick. Are you European, or just pretentious?

Buy your own dope, hippie.

He's not your lurvah. He's FWB. Maybe not even a real friend, more like an acquaintance with benefits.

Friends with benefits sucks in the long run.

I wouldn't feel an ounce of guilt for this one. You maintain sexual intimacy with someone on an ongoing basis presumably you have enough trust and generosity to help yourself to a beer from his fridge or a banana from his fruit bowl or even a bit of his stash without it being deemed "theft."

The fact that you think this is stealing tells me you have very low self esteem.

Oh, maybe this is pot etiquette I am just not getting. Stoner culture has the weirdest etiquette. Like, you have to "smoke up" the guy who sells you the pot. That is such dumb logic, you don't "drink up" the cashier who sells you a six pack.

Anyhow, realize that there is more to life than what you are currently settling fo.

"Oh yeah, I took some of your bud last week, forgot to tell you about it. I would have asked but you were asleep." Say it just before you blow him. Won't even matter afterwards. You stressin' girl!

I used to keep my stash in my top dresser drawer. Unfortunately, my brother and my sister also smoked pot, and, unbeknownst to me, figured out where I kept mine.

To further complicate things, neither my brother nor my sister knew that the other knew about my hiding place.

You can see where this is going. A full ounce baggie was a volatile substance, reduced to a nickel bag within 24 hours, and I only had smoked a few bong hits with friends.

I had to start carrying it with me to keep it from being purloined. Around this time I had to have my wisdom teeth removed. This was done under sedation using nitrous oxide and sodium pentathol.

I don't know what happened while I was under, but when I was coming around, the dentist asked me if I used marijuana.

I denied everything through my cotton packed cheeks.

To paraphrase Art Linkletter, drugs do the darndest things!

... getting way to paranoid.

It's like you grabbed a beer from his fridge without asking first. Just say, "oh I grabbed some of your pot, I owe you a joint." You stole, what? ten dollars? twenty dollars? You didn't take his life savings or charge a fortune on his credit card. This can easily be remedied by a casual apology and replacement of the substance or a reimbursement. Maybe you thought it was way seedier than it really was because it involved a mind-altering/illegal substance, but it's not that big a deal. Honest. I had a boyfriend who took my pot all the time. He always copped to it and I didn't mind at all...wouldn't have noticed if he hadn't admitted it.

Are you certain that you are not in the grip of an addiction? I am a pot smoker and I firmly believe that for some people (like myself, as I suffer from chronic depression) pot can be much more helpful than ever-more-powerful pharmaceuticals in treating these episodes and helping to bring me back to a normal place where I can cope and not dwell. That said, I also believe that even though pot is supposedly not physically addictive, it can definitely become an addition on some level. I did what you did, shamefully more than once, to a roommate I lived with for several years. When I was doing it I felt extremely guilty - I knew what I was doing was horribly wrong. Every time I did it I worried, as you worried, that I took too much - that it was noticeable, that he would suspect me - and swore that I would NEVER do it again. But also at the time I was smoking a lot of pot, and didn't like to run out - I would think about it all the time, and not really be able to relax until I had more. I've since successfully tapered my use to a more reasonable and moderate level and no longer obsess over it this way, or abuse it. Did you have pot when you took some of his, is what I want to know. If you had pot, then Cary is most likely right - this is not about the pot. But if you didn't have pot, what spurred you to take some of his, truly?

I think you need to lay off the pot for a month or two, like, altogether.

Maybe you did it because you want your boyfriend to break up with you: you took the thing he probably cares about the most. And the only way you will stop smoking pot is if you get our of your relationship with him.

Probably, because you needed to steal instead of asking, or alternatively because you felt bad about stealing, you are not a very strong person in some ways. I don't know enough about you to know whether breaking up with the boyfriend is the answer: you might get bored and go back to smoking, just by yourself this time.

In any case, stealing is very childish. I think you SHOULD tell that boyfriend. Do something adult for once!