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and i like your answers, particularly the preface to this one. When people write to you that they're messed up and sad and guilty, you say so are the rest of us and go on to explain how to come to terms with it. And here where a lot of people would just say well it was a learning experience and you did the wrong thing so just move on, you're being very practical by telling the wife. If she knows and decides to still put him through school or whatever, then she's at least making an informed decision, and of course the LW does need to be careful which you also covered, so I just think you're great and the other letter writers on Salon are pretty great, and it's a good place to go when you're just so goddamned upset like I am now.