Letters to the Editor
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These fake letters get better all the time
Next up: The dude who caught his girlfriend making it with the dog!
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My teenage son almost caught me a couple of weeks ago.
I wasn't sure what he saw either. On top of it I had to have a serious conversation about his unexplained presence when he was supposed to be gone for two more weeks.
The shame the LW feels is invasion of privacy however unfortunate and innocent. It seems the LW is almost feeling "raped" yet of course it is wholly unintentional.
Ridding oneself of guilt and shame requires being able to ignore the judgement of others. The LW seems to place high regard to the friend - that or she worries greatly that rumours and gossip in a small conservative town will kill off friends and business. Not knowing the prevailing attitude in the town I couldn't say for sure if the LW "status" is endangered but I could advise to not be ashamed of doing something so natural.
Maybe someday she will be able to laugh about it. That would be a new level Cary talks about.
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This time, I don't think it's real either.
If it were real, it would just say "my friend walked in while I was masturbating." The rich details wouldn't be necessary. And she wouldn't feel like a "bad person" or anything, she'd just be embarrassed, like almost everybody would. Somebody way overdid it.
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Human behavior
LW,
Your letter made me chuckle. Not because I am laughing at you, but c'mon, this situation was funny! Everyone does these things sometimes and probably much worse. If she's uptight, she may act stiff around you because she is uncomfortable with the boundary that was accidentally crossed, but it isn't a big deal.
You are a human being, congratulations! Give yourself an embarrassed hall pass and let it go. You did nothing wrong.
Now if she would have walked in and you were bent over your desk with her husband behind you...
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Next week, we will see aporn video of this
However, in the video, the neighbor will come in, and watch a while, and then start touching herself... Then she will kiss you on the neck and go down on you... and... Hot MILF Lesbians in the Suburbs!
Coming to a porn site near you!
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LW
Yikes, what a pickle. It could be the neighbor saw what was on your computer screen without actually seeing how you were reacting to it... still not something you'd chat about on the playground, sure, but not quite as blush inducing as getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar.
It sounds like you have a great, supportive spouse who's as excited by your recent revelation to him as you are - that's wonderful! It also sounds like he's patient enough to wait until you're able to get the picture of your neighbor out of your head while you're trying to get busy with him. A keeper, for sure.
Talking to someone else you trust is a good idea as well, as Cary said, but it doesn't sound like this is something that will hinder your libido forever. We all have on and off times in our love lives, and embarrassing moments that temporarily put the breaks on in our heads. Give yourself some time and you'll be back to the feisty, sexy woman you were exploring before your neighbor invited herself into your office.
A closed sign is a pretty good idea, however... and a lock. : )
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@Michelle1971
Hey, she didn't say anything about a pickle.
Are you the neighbor? Did you see this pickle in use? What else did you see?
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Aww, poor thing!
I feel for you, LW. But honestly, you didn't do anything wrong, and you weren't hurting anybody. I would try not to think about it for a while. When it comes into your head, just set it aside. After a while, even when it does come into your head, it won't seem quite so mortifying. These things lose their edge with time.
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Oh No!
This is almost as bad as the dolphin erection complex. Holy Cow! What next?
What could be kinkier than this? And not just ANYONE walking in. NO. Another MOM.
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scoff all you want...
Cynical readers can scoff all they want, but I actually had the opposite problem: I've got a friend who barges in on me all the time--at home and at work. For years, he's been doing it. The thing is, he's never caught me masturbating. Sure, there've been times when I was about to, and times when I'd just finished, washed my hands and zipped back up, but he never caught me in the act. So, as time went on, I became self-conscious--I mean, who wouldn't? He must've been thinking I either didn't have a normal sex drive or was too repressed or something. So, finally, one day, having spied him out the window, walking toward my front door, I unzipped and got some porn on the computer. The thing was, I didn't have time to find a properly kinky site and instead ended up with the lamest vanilla nudity you can imagine, and, as it didn't even arouse me...well, let's just say I only made matters worse. By this point, I've gotten so uncomfortable around my friend, I've started locking and bolting my doors, hoping maybe he'll think it's because I'm masturbating, but I just don't know....
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No Shame
I don't think this LW is jiving. I won't say why , but I don't think she is.
But there's the deal, you kinky thing you: it's YOUR sex life. In our increasingly invasive society, you have every right in the world to get off as you see fit.
Your friend is only who has committed an offense: the door was closed. There was a reason for that. She should have waited before barging in on you. If anything, she owes YOU an apology for interrupting your privacy. Sheesh.
However, did you not say this friend is a client as well? Den mothers to boot? Well, here's where things could get trickier. But again, if she can't hang with your kinky self, she was never your friend to begin with. If she is your client, I believe it is illegal for her to disclose anything that she may have seen without your permission, particularly since she barged in on what was clearly a moment you did not care to share with the world.
If you're in a conservative town and she's one of 'those' types, she simply pretend this never happened. That would be your best option, although it might change how you feel about her as a friend.
Whatever happens... this too shall pass. Do talk to someone, per Cary, as you do seem to be deeply disturbed by this.
There is nothing wrong with you for being kinky. I haven't read the stats, but I've heard that they're pretty high. As long as your fantasies don't involve children or animals, you're okay in my book.
Hang in there.