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• Friday, June 6, 2008 08:33 AM

  there just aren't a lot of well adjusted people out there to date

  I've done the dating scene inside and out. I've met a lot of fellas that seemed to have their poop in a group, but then it wasn't long before they showed some sort of narcissism, or addiction, or some other facet of arrested development.

  Women have their own issues too, but I don't date women, so can't speak to that.

  Partly, it's our culture. There's a lot of entitled couch potatoes out there, having existential crisis', having all their needs met, while the only thing they're able to keep clean is their DVRs.

  But then, men treat women a whole lot worse in other cultures, so what are you going to do?

  Just trust that, no, it's not you.

  Don't be too sure that those couples that are giving you the "why are you alone" line all the time aren't living their own brand of dysfunction behind closed doors... these people are often limited in their ability to understand that there are lives to be lived without towing the traditional line. And they might feel unsafe alone. They value couplehood over healthy relationships. Some people get it right, but what's that percentage? 5%? Who knows.

  Society giving single people a lot of crap along with the Cinderella story are like ying and yang - essentially acting as marketing for the procreation lobby.

  If it's a kid you want, look into the Single Mother's By Choice. google up the website. it's a community of great women.

  If it's companionship you want, just get out there and make new friends. google up meetup dot com... go have fun.

  But, first and foremost, don't take the crap. Ignore the pressure. It really isn't your fault. There's a lot of dysfunction out there. And you don't want a dysfunctional relationship. Life's too short.

  —sacajawea Read sacajawea's other letters
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