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He's using a buzzword to manipulate you. It's perfectly reasonable for you to exercise your best judgment about what you do. He's accusing you of being judgmental because you won't do what he wants. Of the two of you, who do you think should be making judgments about what you do with your body?
Fetishes and kinks are great, but manipulating others into fulfilling those fantasies is wrong. Sex, and marriage, is supposed to be about both people's needs being met. He seems to disappear or find a way out every time you need his help with real-life responsibilites (such as pregnancy and moving).
Let's try an old Dear Abby trick: Are you better off with him or without him?
