Letters to the Editor
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Better Things to Worry About
Let me get this straight; you put together a will with legal assistance, you have ample financial resources and so doubtless dealt with myriad inheritance and probate matters, you probably set up trusts for your children-- but instead of discussing the guardianship issue with your attorney, you have to turn to an online advice column?
If you can't even broach this topic with your friends, then they're not the right guardians. And it's absurd to generate so much mental angst over so unlikely a possibility. The odds of you and your husband both dying are miniscule. Do you stay up at night worrying about one of your children dying? About your house burning down? About the market crashing ala 1929 and losing all your investments? These dire tragedies, and a thousand others, are all much more likely to happen than you and your husband meeting with an accident that leaves your kids unexpectedly as orphans.
Stop acting like a stereotypical navel-gazing liberal. Go see your attorney, and if you just "can't" discuss this with a friend, put your folks and your most together sib down as guardians and be done with it. After all-- nothing is going to happen!!!
BTW, this letter reminds me very much of one a few years ago from a similar sort also contemplating her and her husband's demise. The problem then was that the LW's sister and brother-in-law went to church (gasp), weren't politically liberal, and the brother-in-law had served in the military-- so despite the fact that all the kids (cousins) involved were close, the family was a close-knit family, etc., the LW proposed selecting a non-family guardian that shared her political views rather than family with whom her kids were already close.
Not quite the recipe for a great Thanksgiving that year....