Letters to the Editor
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This is why...
...churches and society in general should get out of the gay-hating business. This man is probably gay, but buried it because it is seen as so unacceptable. So he does the best he can, convinces himself he likes women, and goes and marries one and has kids. Eventually, his real self catches up with him, he finally comes to terms with it and feels a burden lifted. (See McGreevy, Jim, former governor of New Jersey.) Meanwhile, the wife's life is ruined, at least until she gets the divorce and spends years getting over it. I'm sure she now feels very secure about her own sex appeal and knowledge of the man she married.
All you guys who have not yet talked yourself into marrying as a "cure," do youself and your future wife a big giant favor and accept yourself as you really are. Forget the church, your family, and whatever other judgmental jerks are making you feel bad about being gay. I'm sure it is very difficult, but it only gets worse when you have to hurt a wife and kids down the road.
Good luck to the LW, and especially to his wife. Because while he is on the exciting road of self discovery, albeit with good intentions, her world is crumbling and she's headed for a single parenthood she never bargained for.
When he does leave her, and he finds exciting new love with a man and feels terrific, finally, after all these years, grant the woman a big kindness: don't tell her about it. Raise your children and support her as a parent. It's about all you can do at this point.