Letters to the Editor
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not the LW's responsibility
I don't think its the LW's responsibility to tell "Jan's" boyfriend anything.
Jan needs to take some f*cking responsibility for herself and her actions, the most obvious step is to get tested for STDs ASAP. The LW can tell Jan's boyfriend, and fill Jan's purse with condoms, and stay up till 5am to "protect" her from Marines... but at the end of the day it's not her responsibility. Because when she does all those things, it means Jan doesn't have to take responsibiltiy. Jan can sit back and keep on blaming the world for her own actions. I'd suggest against it.
As far as drunken nights with Marines go... don't tell me that by age 26 you don't know wtf you're doing when it comes to drinking with a group of young men. Now, if she was 19 and in college, and got herself into a "bad situation" I'd feel a lot more sympathy. But this person is an adult, who has had plenty of time to learn how much booze the can drink and what kind of situation they should be drinking it in. Yeah her friends shouldn't have abandoned her, but if she does this kind of crap all the time, I'd abandon her arse too. Theres only so much responsiblity other people can take for your actions before you need to grow up and be responsible for yourself.
Its not her friends fault or the marine's fault for what happened. It's Jan's. She's old enough to know better and be honest with herself and her BF.