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>Sacajewa
>Too bad you have borrowed such a name.
too bad you misspelled it... but anyways...
that's great your kids get to stay in the same school, and live harmonious lives.
many children in such situations get pulled across state lines and end up in silly battles between the parents. it's tough on the kids.
And, trust me, as a child of divorce, even if the kids _look_ like they're doing ok to the parents, they might just be putting on a good face to keep the parents from fighting, or sobbing, or blaming each other, or going off on a bender, or disappearing for years again, etc. The poor kids are often found to be walking a tightrope, to no fault of their own.
Have a look at the book: The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study by Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, Sandra Blakeslee
Joint custody works when the parents live near each other, and co-operate civilly and with empathy towards the children. But if the parents were good at behaving like that, they might not be getting divorced in the first place. maybe.
Sending a kid back and forth with a suitcase is cruel. Nothing anyone can say can convince me otherwise.
