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Mention you might start therapy and let him beat you to the punch about that!
But really, it won't help you for him to do therapy, whether it helps him or not.
The question that will help you understand what's going on is not "What's wrong with him?" The question is, "What is going on with me that I choose this?" Yes, it's in the relationship, but you choose that relationship each day. Why?
I disagree that you can write this off as a "mistake you made 10 years ago." Until you know yourself well enough to see why this person feels like home to you and what the payoff is for you, getting out only puts you in danger of linking up with the same guy in a different body.
Do your own therapy whether he joins you or not.