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He's got some major insecurity there.
I don't know if therapy will help this one or not.
I've dealt with non-spouses who do this, and the universal truth about them is that they are afraid to be thought of as 'less', and so become the most obnoxious person in the crowd. They often are seeking the approval of, or validation from, people they upstage. Many of them have boundary issues in general.
What I do know is that a constant upstager and stealer of your ideas is stunningly insecure, and needs a firm limit set. I believe that most therapists would point this out as well. There is nothing wrong with saying, "This is my personal activity and time for me." You'll know quickly the level of the problem based on the reaction you get.