Letters to the Editor
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No boundaries
This DOES sound like narcissistic personality disorder; be aware that even if you do get him to go to therapy, narcissists are HIGHLY unlikely to change. They usually refuse to admit that they even have a problem; they will do everything they can to shift the burden of their dysfunction onto you.
Beyond that, though, this man obviously has no sense of boundaries at all. Not only does he routinely violate yours, but he does not sound like he acknowledges that such boundaries have a right to exist.
You CANNOT engage in any therapeutic interaction with a person when they don't allow you to set boundaries. You can't even start discussing a problem, because they conflate their problems with your words, and your concerns with their actions. Unless you can set a boundary with your husband and have it respected, no amount of therapy will help this relationship.
(If I were you, I'd flee.)