Letters to the Editor
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Search for Self Never Stops
Cary's advice is all right as far as it goes. But there are some practical things that can be done, and temping is certainly one of them.
I've just turned 55 and am in a job that's suited for me in some areas (proofreading and other document "processing") but not others (boring clerical matters). It pays me decently, is only a few miles away, has some flexibility, and allows my sons to be on my employer-subsidized health care plan. All very important.
However...for the last couple of years, I've also been a volunteer publicity director for a local orchestra. It's struggling right now, and I've had fun with being creative with publicity, but also found that I've had to raise money. I never thought I could do it, but I recently wrote and sent out a letter asking friends and city officials for modest sums, and have so far received a fairly decent response. I've realized that I can really do this, i.e., ask for money and get some, which is understandably not everyone's cup of tea.
This has led me to the cusp of developing a five-year plan for myself (I'm older and better situated--LW can move on matters more immediately), which entails exploring professional publicity and fundraising positions in the area. As time goes on, I'll develop more experience with the orchestra (hopefully they'll be able to pay me, but I'm not banking on that), which will enhance my credentials and bolster my resume.
I feel like, at this age, I still haven't discovered who I "really" am and what I'm capable of. But this only makes life more interesting.
So...by all means, LW, temp around, seek out career counseling, try to volunteer for a cause that interests you and to which you'd like to contribute your skills and talents. If you're smart and willing to work and take initiative, there's no reason to settle for jobs with abhorrent jerks for bosses who see you as nothing more than a money-making automaton.
Once you discover what your real talents are, if you get a position in which you have the satisfaction of using them, the stress (which every job has, to be realistic) won't seem like such an obstacle, because you'll be authentic to yourself and your work, and your pride in what you do will, hopefully, outweigh the pressures.
Good luck!