Letters to the Editor
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I believe this is a real question
I liked the way Cary's answer focuses on logic in a lyrical way.
One thing I've learned about being a parent is that you do have to steel yourself against the guilt/shame/sadness that comes from seeing the lovely baby that depended completely on you go into the world and get all sullied. It happens. The idea of the perfect happy baby, toddler, child, teen, young adult is going to be shattered sooner or later.
Blaming yourself or your spouse or whomever won't relieve the guilt the way it can when something bad happens to yourself, because parents are supposed to protect their children. You really have to just accept that all you can do is your best and that the kid will have to play the hand he or she was dealt.
The letterwriter is already recognizing this stressful aspect of parenthood, which could be first step toward being able to cope with it.