Letters to the Editor
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Curse her Back!!!!
Curse her back! Curse her that she will have a horrible relationship with her son and grandchildren, that she will grow old, she will have vague aches and pains which no doctor will validate, she will be miserable, she will have to spend more and more on groceries that won't taste as good as they did in the old days, and her heart will grow hard with bitterness and spite as the years go by, and most importantly, curse her with supernatural impotence so that none of her curses (over your husband or anyone else) will ever have any power.
What qualifies a person to curse another, anyhow? Did she get certified by the Academy of Old World Curses and Spells? Is she a witch?
If not, then your curses have just as much power as hers do. Curse her back. Spit on her kitchen table to seal it, if you can't bring yourself to spit directly at her face. Tell her that is how you seal a curse in your culture.
And while you do all this, try to keep a straight face, if you can.
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Greek advice on lifting the curse
Though I do not believe in curses myself, I believe in the power of belief. If you really feel that you want to lift the curse in the proper way, a Greek friend of mine told me that it is really as simple as saying a particular blessing or prayer, or being blessed by someone else. Though my friend is not familiar with the specifics, she did say that getting another old Greek lady to bless you/say a prayer for you should do the trick. Any Greek relatives around that do like you?
Good luck.
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I dunno about curses...
...that is, how to remove them and all. But it would definitely be a good idea if the LW and family moved as far away from this crew as possible. The husband's family is totally toxic--if not straight-out abusive--and I'm betting no matter what she does to cut ties, they will find some way to stay in her face. Short of entering the Witness Protection program, there's probably no other way LW is going to be able to keep them from kicking her and her family around. She's the in-law scapegoat, and bullies don't give up their victims easy.
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@ LeCastor
Truly good curse removal works for all beliefs.
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your mother-in-law is insane and you are under no obligation to have her in your life
Once you understand that, you'll be on the right track.
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This letter reads like a parody
No way is this for real.
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This calls for experts
It's been twelve years of abuse from this harpy and you say you've only been cursed recently? Reconsider this perspective.
The specifics of removing curses is beyond this board's area of expertise. Suggest consulting a shaman, the Greek Orthodox Church, or Nia Vardalos.
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Ugggh.
Man, that's harsh. I was speechless when I read your letter.
I'm assuming that by Greek, you may mean "Greek Orthodox" of an ersatz third-generation sort of way. BTW, *real* Greek (Eastern) Orthodoxy does NOT condone the placing of curses on anyone; your deceived m-i-l may not have noted this, but the placing of curses on people is very much in disharmony with the Sermon on the Mount as well as everything else Jesus ever said...
Anyway, the funny thing is that the Greek church does recognize that curses are placed on people -- the "evil eye" -- and there is actually a little prayer type blessing that an Orthodox priest can pray over you. I'm guessing your husband was baptized Orthodox; if so, you can go right on up to the church and get a blessing. Maybe even if you're not, actually, I don't remember. It also seems to me that the priest of a Greek church (who are usually ethnic Greek themselves) has VERY LIKELY heard of this before, and can give you some very simple, sage advice on how to respond to the m-i-l's beliefs regarding curses and the "evil eye". So even if you're not Orthodox, you won't get laughed at if you call him up and ask his help/blessing/advice. There are many Greek people who regard the Orthodox church as more of an expression of ethos than a rite of spiritual belief, so you can bet the priest has heard it all before. There are many wonderful, truly pious Greek people, but there are also many just as superstitious and misled as your m-i-l (though I hope not as venomous!).
But in any case, if you get a blessing from the priest of the same church she claims to be a member of, regardless of how marginal a member she must be, that pretty much trumps anything she said over you! Plus, you can up and tell her the priest blessed you whenever she says those vile things again. If she's the kind of superstitious Greek I'm thinking of, being able to say the Greek priest blessed you is actually a big deal.
But Cary is right: even if all this woman does is make you uneasy with that horrible stuff, in a sense she's won, and regardless of the "power" of this thing, you need to find the healing that is right for you if only to put your mind at ease.
I am truly, truly shocked and sorry this woman said these evil things to you and over your family. May God bless you and keep you and cause His face to shine upon you and your family!
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A modern shaman performed two rituals for me in 1991 and 1999.......
Those rituals did nothing to abate the hatred my mother (and ex-H) had for me, so virulent was their hatred.
Such vehemence from your mother in law to her son is bound to have an effect on him. Spitting in his face is especially demeaning. Very likely his mother's words and actions have been repeatedly played over and over in his mind.
A safe distance, to me, is more effective than a ritual. As long as you are in her promixity, my bet is that there will be fresh wounding.The magic formula for me was, I MOVED...that is, I escaped without making it appear that I was escaping.
MOVED 4000 miles away where for 6 years I still was terrified of their hatred and debilitated by it...but there was no opportunity for fresh attacks to be launched on me directly.
Attacks continued, however, in subtler ways and even from my mother's grave. These attacks were instigated by her energy, her malicious desires and the seeds she had deliberately sown to incite civil war between me and my children. (Her plan failed).
Your mother in law is toxic. Unless she herself seeks change at the root of her consciousness, I doubt her attitude toward you or your husband ,her son, will change very soon.
I don't know what your circumstances are, but moving saved my life.
You need to have your own physical space which she cannot intrude upon. You need to have control over your physical and psychological environment in which you engage with your mother in law only on your terms and in a specific and limited way.
Naturally you would not continue to do their cleaning, laundry, ironing etc...
You need to set boundaries . After I moved away, I respctfully established that I would not receive letters, phone calls, personal visits or emails from my mother. ( Much later when it was safe, in the last yr of her life, I did accept emails)
Should you decide to move and limit contact with your mother in law, be prepared to receive further disapproval such as allegations of abandoning of his mother etc. If you stay within the family circle you won't be considered as doing anything right. If you leave you also won't be doing anything right. You may as well do something healthy for yourself and your family for you won't be approved of in any case.
It is important that your children have a healthy mental environment. If they see that their parents are being demeaned and put down by their grandmother, it does affect them.
CAUTION: In the face of provocation, neither you nor your husband should say or do anything that is rude in retaliation -this will be just cause for further malignment.
I'd like to convey that if you save yourself and your family, it is perfectly legitimate to do so. Your husband will not be a 'bad son' (though he may be considered as such by HIS family).
Your husband and you would be emancipated as human beings. This is your right - to have the rights of a normal human being, to live and raise your children in a psychologically safe and stable home environment. This is your right.
You did not mention if your husband has siblings. If he is an only child, it may be more difficult to separate from his mother. I was an only child.I had to make a choice for my own life.
Whatever your circumstance, you and your husband deserve to live without mental abuse. It is a legitimate right.