Letters to the Editor
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Dear Cursed,
Curses -- if you believe them -- are very serious things.
However, I wonder if you are new to Salon. If not, you need to prepare yourself for a barrage of letters in this particular thread in which people excoriate you for being an idiot. Ignore them. We feel what we feel and we fear what we fear.
Cary is right. You must find a strategy to remove the curse. My suggestion is simple. You need to move the furniture in your house around, especially the marital bed which you share with you husband. Trust me. This will work.
First, you must make certain that your bed is not beneath a window and that your heads as you sleep are not within two feet of a window. No good can come of having your head too near a window at night. You can never tell what will come in with the drafts. Second, look at your entire bedroom layout; by this I mean that you should include your furniture arrangement. Does it make you happy when you walk into the room? If not, maybe you need a new bed covering or new curtains. If you cannot arrange your room so that your head is away from the window, get heavy drapes and close them at night. Think of what might be a reasonable expenditure to improve the mood of both of you when you are in the room. Is your night table one that you like. How is the lighting in the bedroom. Do you have to walk to far to get to the bathroom when you get up at night? Are you and your husband sleeping well? Is your mattress really comfortable? Are the colors cheerful?
So fix the bedroom. Move all the furniture around and try something different. Get your husband to help you. Get really exhausted while trying new things.
Once you have the furniture arrangement as you like, light a candle and say the prayer or affirmation of your choice together. Now change the sheets on the bed so that they are nice and fresh and spray one of those fragrances for bed linens on them. Maybe lavender. Then shower together, fall into bed, and make love. Try something new there as well.
I hope you do not live too near your mother-in-law. In any case, it is good you stopped doing things for her. You are not anyone's slave.
Best wishes.