Letters to the Editor
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I understand LW's trepidation about revealing "how they met,"
but not for the same reasons.
I too met my now-XH through a personal ad in the late 90s, just before the Internet revolutionized the world. We dated for 18 mos, we were older (mid/late 40s) and hardly acting rashly or impulsively.
He looked great "on paper:" educated, professional, widowed after a lengthy marriage. The whole thing was a fraud, as he turned out to be a sociopathic drug-dealer who used his life and even his kids as fronts for the "family business." I didn't just dream it, either; shortly after I left, after scarcely a year of marital horror, the law contacted me about him.
In my haste to get away from that dangerous cesspool, I lost everything I had earned over a 20-yr professional life and am still rebuilding from the loss. I was better off in the long run; I'll never know how close I came to doing prison time for something I walked into innocently, just b/c I wanted a little company.
I'm hardly alone in this misadventure, either. Check out www.lovefraud.com for more on the dark side of online romance.
I hope LW's angst about sharing w/others "how they met" is her only problem...