Letters to the Editor
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You've misunderstood yourself
LW says "I think part of me feels like my decision to use an online dating service was like admitting that I'm unable to meet men on my own, that I need some kind of remedial help."
Uh, LW, using an online dating service IS meeting men on your own. You needed to meet men who were good candidates for you, and the available venues were not working out, so you found another way to solve the problem. Good for you. Was it remedial help? Nope. It was high-tech help. Again, good for you!
And if knowing that doesn't resolve this issue for you, I can assure you that an overwhelming number of people who ask "How did you two meet?" will be more than satisfied if you say "Just lucky, I guess" (even though I think your own cleverness, not luck, was at work here, and it's a pity if you don't give yourself proper credit for that).