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Mr. Big Shot and His Swimming Pool
The question you need to ask yourself is, "What is your husband getting out of this arrangement?"
Maybe inviting people to use the pool makes him feel magnanimous and successful. "Look at us! We've got a beautiful home and a lovely pool and we can afford to entertain anybody who happens to drop in." Maybe he felt like a poor relation growing up, and now he can show those snooty cousins how well he and his family are doing. Maybe he just really craves approval and hopes the pool offer will make him more popular.
Until you can figure out why it pleases him to offer the pool to all users, you won't have much luck convincing him to stop.