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Miss Manners, again, because I love her
Miss Manners likely would have approved of your kind way of pointing out the lemon-tree owner's faux pas by saying that you would also like some lemons.
No, Miss Manners would never approve of pointing out someone else's rudeness. That would be meeting rudeness with rudeness, never OK in Miss Manners book.
But you're right, offering lemons to one guest and not others is rude. Perhaps the hostess meant it to be an open invitation to all within earshot and Cary's escort misread the situation. Miss Manners also always assumes the best intentions of her hosts.