Letters to the Editor
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Husband needs to stop open arms policy
The husband opened the door to this behavior. But it's still inexcusable for the cousin to crash a social event as she did.
Two ways I see to handle this.
(1) Have husband call cousin & ask her if she'd like to come by and swim on a specific morning or afternoon. Tell her that your family has upcoming social plans with coworkers or school friends but that day is free & you don't want her to miss out. After that day, tell her that she doesn't have to be invited - she just has to call you whenever she wants a swim & you'll let her know if pool is available.
(2) Have husband call cousin AND other relatives & say something like this: I invited everyone to use pool whenever they want but wanted to let you know we have some social events coming up so pool won't be available. We'll be hosting work or school friends and acquaintances. You're welcome to continue to use pool - just make sure you give a call first to make sure it's available.