Letters to the Editor
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Bad Letter, Good Advice, Quick Judgements
The letter is definitely light on facts.
My first impression was that the guy was a jerk, but I've realized that I too once (only the once) had a GF who was far more ... intrusive than I was ready for at the time.
What if LW is asking BF if he wants her to stay right after sex?
No guy with even half a brain is going to say, "No, I don't want you to stay. I want you to get up out of my bed, get dressed, and go home."
Of course, it could be deemed wrong for a guy to be willing to have sex with a woman he doesn't WANT to share his home with, but hey, that stuff happens all the time. Guys are often FAR more interested in the sex than the breakfast.
I don't think there's enough information in that first letter for anyone to be justified in calling the guy a prick. If he's a guy who thinks the LW is cute but DOESN'T want to make a life with her, what he's doing could be the more compassionate approach than saying, "You're a nice girl, and you're pretty, but you're not the one for me."
As AfroGoddess pointed out--he's already floated the idea of the two of them seeing each other less often.