Letters to the Editor
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LW, Anonymous_Too is exactly right
He's getting off on making you jump through hoops. You deserve better.
Get anything left there and just dump him. If he asks why,tell him because he doesn't care enough to do half of the work. That means he really doesn't want you.
Find a "grown ass man". Evrybody has problems and issues. Do not "uplift" a man. The only one who will ever solve his problems is him. You can't fix or help them. Unless he has his stuff together enough to act right, don't date him. DO not waste yourself this way.
I think dude is more selfish and clueless than controlling. He sounds like a playa, and this is standard issue playa behavior. He will not change. He may claim he will, but as soon as you go back, he'll act an ass again. If you go back, you will teach him this treatment is ok. You have already taught him it is ok by putting up with it.
He is honest. Lots of asses use honesty as a weapon. "Do what I want or you won't see me." Fuck that. He is telling you that he really does not care if he sees you.
There's a man out there who will want you when it is inconvenient, etc. It doesn't matter if something is wrong with you, an STD, a physical deformity, whatever. You do NOT have to put up with this. Dump him.