Letters to the Editor
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@ Tara21
I agree with your feeling about the BF not wanting a key to LW's place, but that's not the issue.
It's simple fairness that if LW wants a key to BF's place, BF should have a key to LW's place. We don't know for a fact if BF has a key, or has even been offered one.
If what BF wants is for the relationship to have certain limits, such as LW not having a key, that's perfectly fine as long as those limits go both ways. Plus BF has to accept the natural consequences: LW isn't going to spend as much time there, isn't going to do many of the things she's been doing, and most of all isn't going to be unreasonably inconvenienced by lack of a key. Let BF shop for his own groceries if he won't give a key and cannot guarantee to be there before LW shows up. Simple as that.
I've been in long-term serious relationships where keys were shared, and in others where they weren't. Also did the hide-a-key thing. All can work but the natural consequences have to be accepted.