Letters to the Editor
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Reasons
Cary didn't explore the possible reasons why did won't give you a key, but I shall.
1. He can't, for some reason (e.g. they're non-duplicateable, or he would need to get the apartment manager involved and it's against his lease). Unlikely, but not impossible. I think if this was the case, he'd tell you and you wouldn't be writing in.
2. He doesn't trust you not to steal his stuff. Maybe his last girl ripped off his CD collection or pills. He's got some issues to work through, and you're not the one who's going to be able to help him with these.
3. He doesn't trust you not to snoop through his stuff while he's gone, or to show up unannounced while he's home. And why not? Because he's got something to hide. What could it be? Hm. He's probably cheating on you.
4. He's doing it just because he likes, in an abstract sense, being in control of his apartment ("power"), and that's more important to him than being considerate of you. So he's a dick.
Assuming it's one of 2, 3, or 4, this is not a relationship that's going anywhere, so you might as well Dump The MotherFucker Already and get on with your life, lady.