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HEY! Wait a minute!
Does the boyfriend have a key to LW's place? Maybe I missed it, but nowhere has LW stated that he does.
If BF has a key to LW's place, but LW doesn't have a key to BF's place, there's a clear power/control issue.
If not, why should BF give a key to his place without getting
one to LW's place in return? There is nothing at all wrong with BF not wanting to give LW a key if BF doesn't have a key to LW's place.
Either way I agree with Cary. LW should not just dump the guy; instead, she should arrange her life so that she does not need a key to BF's place. That may be a little less convenient and BF may not like it, but tough cookies, it's the price of that kind of privacy.
Trust isn't something you can demand; it's something that has to be earned.