Letters to the Editor
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Back @ Jug
Okay, I DO agree with your latest post...in the other one, it sounded like you were sticking up for the BF completely.
So far, all we can do is take the LW's statements at face value- and if the BF really DID put an ultimatum on her (you know, the whole "move yo shits into my place w/o key or I won't see you as much if you stay at your place" crap) then on the basis of THAT I think she needs to seriously reconsider staying with this dude because it's a sign of a terribly selfish and inconsiderate person to make demands like that. But, all we have to go on is what the LW says that the BF says.
I agree with you that BF needs to learn the consequences. If you give your SO a couple of closets, and you refuse to stay over at their place, and you allow them to "semi-move" in, then you are basically telling the SO that you are ready for key-level commitment. Like I said about my own BF- it took him 2 years to be ready for me to leave stuff at his house, but he didn't invite me to do that until he WAS ready to give me a key as well.
I think the bottom line here is that the LW isn't asking to move stuff in and get a key. The stuff is already in. She just wants a key to get to her stuff. If he doesn't want that level of commitment, then he shouldn't allow her stuff to be there in the first place. (Personally, tho, I think this dude is craptastic.)