Letters to the Editor
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Multiple girlfriends don't mind that she lives there mostly?
He has multiple girlfriends.
Except that she's there all the time and keeps her clothes in his closet. I find it unlikely that the other "girlfriends" would be content with *that* arrangement.
It looks to me like he just wants her to jump when he says jump. If her description of him is accurate, he shows zero interest in accommodating her needs or desires, but expects her to accommodate his at all times (doesn't want her to move her stuff back home and doesn't want to stay at her place sometimes, but also doesn't want to make it easy for her to live by his desired arrangement.)
If he's threatening her with "we'll see less of each other" then it's a threat he's OK with following through on. That's the heart of the matter: he's fine with seeing less of her.
She needs to say now, "how about we see none of each other?" and make a clean break. Tough but necessary to save her sanity. Self-doubt is pernicious and will eat your soul.