Letters to the Editor
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Back away
Re-establish your boundaries. Either he doesn't care for you much, or he's not ready to share the key and all that portends. So give him the space and reclaim your own. Make it clear that if he wants to be with you, he needs to act like it.
In the meantime, do not tolerate being inconvenienced by this guy. Get your stuff OUT of that apartment ASAP; just tell him it is highly inconvenient to not have access to your things and it's not OK. No more sleepovers, unless it's at your place and it's convenient for you. Be clearer about when something is OK and when it is not. (And prepare yourself to move on--to a better relationship!)
And for future reference: NEVER, never, never do chores for a grown man. Unless he is physically crippled, he can fetch his own groceries, laundry etc. Only when you're wearing that wedding band do you even begin to consider the chores.