Letters to the Editor
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Forget just giving you a key. He should be asking you to move in.
And if he's not ready for that, then he should be perfectly willing to put up with the situation of you living exclusively out of your own apartment.
He doesn't want more closeness with you. He just wants convenience. He knows giving you a key (or inviting you to move in) increases his commitment to you; that's why he won't do it.
Did he really say "That's okay, we just won't see each other as often"? I mean, come on, what does that tell you? Like Cary says, if he can get anything he wants by threatening to deprive you of seeing him (and furthermore, if that arrangement wouldn't bother him in the least), then the things that are broken here cannot be fixed with a key. Or even a key and flowers and a teddy bear.
You guys need to have a serious talk about what each of you wants from the relationship. I think you might find that they don't match up very well.