Letters to the Editor
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unsolicited advice
I agree with Cary, this is a touching letter. But, I find it nearly impossible - without the benefit of details - to take for granted the statement that the LW and her partner have decided that adoption is the wrong choice.
Unsolicited to LW: I would advise you to reconsider it. Maybe I don't understand, but can I intuit that your worry is that the birth mother will back out at the last minute? All expectant parents worry about losing their children - that there will be a miscarriage, a complication, SIDS, etc. You can't let worries like that stop you. You can't be out of resources. Find some. Change your mind. You're holding yourselves back. Trust me, I'm a parent: if you want to have a child (and you are equipped and responsible enough to do so, within reason) then you simply owe it to yourself to make it happen. There are no excuses and no choices. You must be willing to give up everything for it - that is what parenting is.