Letters to the Editor
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The Brother's Behavior is that of a Bully
And society still covers for bullies. Hence advice columns receiving far more letters from people who are victims of bullies then of bullies bothered by their own behavior. If there is a letter or comment from a bully, it's usually justifying the behavior--get over it, weak sister. But just because such people say being bullied is not a big deal does not make it the truth universal and triumphant.
People are traumatized by more than family members--there's also the work bullies. The first website is from the UK, where bullying is taken as a very serious problem to society. Both websites has some great information, applicable to family or outside bullies. It helps just to see the behavior described. People who are bullied as children are susceptible to being bullied by others--you already have the acceptance ingrained.
http://www.bullyeq.com/bol/workbully/serial.htm
http://www.worktrauma.org/change/bullying.htm
Mark Ames' book "Going Postal" is a very good dissection of American bullying as well.