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Sounds familiar
I am well acquainted with your situation, if not in a bar, then in other groups. I have a special talent for drawing the ire of people who have expectations like your bar friends. They will see you how they want to see you: cheerful, fun, lovely, humorous, gregarious, sexy... whatever they decide.
Consistency is one thing, living as a type is another. Sometimes you take on roles you may not be aware of and that is how people frame you. If you act like yourself, a fluid real live human being and they don't like your behavior, well that falls under the category of 'not your problem'.
Isn't this how we distinguish the true friends from the pack? Those who see us as we really are and still love us are the keepers.