Letters to the Editor
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Bullies
Sounds like your husband has a touch of the bully in him. It happens, doesn't mean he's a bad person. But he won't "get it" or respond to reasoning in areas where he's just kind of being a jerk. So it's time--and the time always comes with people like this--for you to make it very, very clear what's okay with you. It goes like this:
"Listen, I love you. But do not, Do Not, bug me about this again. It's bullshit. This conversation is over. Do not tell me how to move again."
I don't think you've done this, just drawn the line utterly. You can't always persuade or convince people to quit a hurtful behavior by explaining all the reasons it's not working. But you can say No, firmly. It's an instruction, not an act of bargaining. Instruct him in no uncertain terms the next time it comes up. End of conversation.
Some people who carry on like big dummies for years have just never had someone tell them with great conviction to cut that shit out. They need to hear it. You need to say it.