Letters to the Editor
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Quit Feeding The Monster
LW, here's something for you to try, the next time you are lucky enough to spend some time with your friends. I don't know if it will work but I don't think it will hurt.
Think about them.
Don't think about what a great job you're doing of thinking about them. Don't think about how much you want to think about them, or how hard it is for you to think about them, or how sorry you are that you haven't thought about them more in the past.
Carefully listen to what they say, so that you could repeat it back to them word for word if you had to. Notice whether they seem to be enjoying the conversation, whether they are making eye contact, whether they seem comfortable. Ask them questions about themselves, about their families, and about their lives and their thoughts. Then listen when they answer. Remember what they say.
I think if you can learn to pay attention to them, you will have to focus on yourself less. Then maybe the monster will begin to starve to death.